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Nightmares and Dreams

2010 September 27
by Pamela

20 weeks!  This has been a good pregnancy and I’m blessed to say that one of the few things I’m  good at is carrying babies.  But I’ve also decided that 35 is too old to be pregnant.  Unfortunately I’m 35.

Last night I was plagued with anxiety about today’s ultrasound.  It seemed like I had nightmares the entire night about the baby not being healthy.  Needless to say, today I woke up a total wreck.  So many of us go to the ultrasound around this time to find out the sex of the baby and we wanted to do that too.  But I was concerned about the baby’s heart, lungs, kidneys, and brain even more.

It’s a bittersweet thing knowing you are going to have your last baby.  I will likely never have another ultrasound to see our baby’s little limbs flailing about again.  This is the last baby bump, although it’s going to get much bigger than this one:

Thankfully everything on our little one measured perfectly and seemed to be functioning normally.  I cried throughout most of the ultrasound, out of relief.  Everytime the tech assured me that everything appeared fine and that our baby was healthy, I needed a new tissue.

But the little booger would not open his or her legs.  The tech tried everything to get the baby to move, to no avail.  After several minutes, she finally had success.

We are having a girl!  Yes, our THIRD girl!  One of the first things Bob said is “We are building a house and I’m going to have my own bathroom”.  He obviously has memories of having three sisters (and three brothers) all sharing a bathroom. 

We are incredibly grateful to have a healthy baby.  To have a baby at all. 

Neither of us has the guts to tell Mary Claire the news yet.  I think she might move out when she hears there is yet ANOTHER sister on the horizon.  She has been adamently opposed to a sister this entire pregnancy, even with all of our encouragement that it would be fun to have a second sister.

If you see Mary Claire, please take a moment to tell her how wonderful it will be to be the big sister of two little sisters who will adore her.  And please recommend a good therapist because I think she might need one.

But mostly, please rejoice with us over God’s most precious gift:  the gift of life!

Finally, if you are inclined to leave a comment, could this sentimental mama ask that you do so on this blog post rather than Facebook?  I would love to print all your comments along with this post to share with our little girl someday.

23 Responses leave one →
  1. Jennifer D. permalink
    September 27, 2010

    YAY!!! Congratulations to the Wright family, Mary Clare and Elizabeth will both love her when she arrives. I know she will be precious, just like their big sisters. By the way, you look AMAZING!

  2. Jen permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Yay!! Another girl! Tegan won’t be the only girl around!! Congrats on another healthy baby!! Oh, and now I have to return all those shoes to you!!

  3. Shelly Metcalf permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Well, I know what it’s like to have 3 girls!! I know you will ALL be happy with girls too:) I love the “Neither of us has the guts to tell Mary Claire the news yet” line!! That made me LOL!! Make it fun for her and maybe it will help her deal with a new sister! Make her a cake with the inside being pink and the outside her favorite icing flavor and let her cut it and see.She will be fine!

    God is good and we are praising the Lord for His wonderful gift to you all! Like I told you Sunday, if you need MC to go to therapy…I will go with her:)

    Ashlee will tell her all about being a big sister to 2, she’s great at it!!

  4. Julie Grimmelsman permalink
    September 27, 2010

    First off, you are not too old to have a baby. I was born when my mother was 38, and I was her second of four. Her last one was born at 45! I think it is great news to find out you are having a healthy baby girl. MC will get used to it. I grew up in a family with four girls. My dad made sure we each had our own room to “divide and conquer!” Best of luck to your precious family.


  5. Calre permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Congrats on another girl!!

  6. Karina H permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Congratulations to all of you. I pray that Bob does get that bathroom he wants someday, maybe he would not mind sharing it with his super hot wife? You do look super fabulous pregnant and it suits you well. Did you save all those great names we worked on during Elizabeth’s pending arrival? Praying for all of you during the last half of this pregnancy!

  7. Christy O'Connor permalink
    September 27, 2010

    your exactly 5 weeks ahead of me and my US is october 21st I am so happy for you guys!!! tell Bob to just build his own man cave cause he will need that too!!! Congrats and welcome to a terrific family baby girl Wright!!!

  8. Denise Gonzlaes permalink
    September 27, 2010

    I am so happy for you that you found out that the baby is perfect in every way! I really don’t think that you could of expected anything else. You seem like the perfect mommy and i just love listening to you talk about miss mary catherine. I’m sure you have take total care of yourself. You will be so lucky to have another daughter, oh wait, Deesa has 3 kids also, 2 girls and one boy, i hate to tell you this but Grace and Julia absolutely hate each other, lol yup, thats right, thank GOD the last one who is Dylan was a boy.
    They both just love him to death, as a matter of fact, I do believe thats the only thing they agree on. Maybe you shouldnt tell Mary Catherine. Love ya

  9. Stefanie permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Thank you so much for sharing this story. I remember that when I had already 2 brothers I so wished for a girl. My parents never found out the sex of the baby in advance, so we had to wait until our sibling arrived. When I came home from school the day my third brother was born I was quite upset. My grandma said in an effort to comfort me, “Oh, don’t be upset. You can be the princess as long as you are the only girl.” This comforted me for the time being even though I never had it with princesses, as I was quite a tomboy. Anyway … I know, this story is not going to help break the news to Mary Claire, but I just remembered it when I read your blog. Congratulations – I am happy for you all. Now I am curious about the name.

  10. Tamora Rowe permalink
    September 27, 2010

    I am thrilled for you, Wrights! Congrats again and I’m so happy to hear that everything is on track for a healthy happy little girl.

  11. Joyce Hansard permalink
    September 27, 2010

    God is good! I’m happy for all of you.

  12. Kelly permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Congratulations Wright family! 3 girls is such a blessing! Of course all of my childhood memories are of being from a family of 3 girls. Bob stay strong (oh my dad built his own bathroom also). Mary Claire, I am the oldest of the 3 and love it. My sisters are my best friends and the bond is truly wonderful. Can’t wait to meet the 3rd Wright girl :)

  13. Stacey Harper permalink
    September 27, 2010

    Congratulations on a healthy baby. I love your idea of saving these posts and comments for your children. Someday Mary Claire will laugh at herself; probably not even remembering the angst she felt! If you are considering binding your blog into a book, let me know and I’ll pass on a blog I follow where the gal bound each of her five years of blogging. She did it herself and saved a lot of money by not having it done online for her…Dave Ra,sey would be proud! :)

    • Pamela permalink*
      September 28, 2010

      Stacey, I would definitely be interested in doing something like that! Thanks for your kind words and the idea.

  14. Chris permalink
    September 27, 2010

    It was great having three sisters, right Bob? This is great news and a blessing. I asked Mary Claire what she was hoping for and she said a sister! Someday when they’re all grown up, they’ll be inseperable, you watch!
    Until then, well…. just kidding. I love my sisters very much and I’m glad to be part of a trio, and they will be too!!

  15. Julie Jones permalink
    September 27, 2010

    wow. Congratulations. Thankful for a healthy baby but I was sooooooooo with Mary Claire! I wanted a boy for you so badly. :^) You guys do make very beautiful girls though. Can’t wait to meet her.

  16. September 28, 2010

    This is very exciting news, Pamela. So happy for you all. Tell Mary Claire that Parker thinks having little girls around is great. :)

  17. Kirsten Wheeler permalink
    September 28, 2010

    Congratulations! That is exciting news, and I’m so happy for all of you. Oh, and my mom had me at 35 and my brother at 37. It’s going to be great. :)

  18. Stacey permalink
    September 28, 2010

    Here’s the link to the blog bookbinding post.

    I hope this helps :)

  19. Sally permalink
    September 28, 2010

    Yay, girls! Yay, healthy babies! So happy for you all, Pamela!

    I hope you tell Mary Claire that only people who are really, REALLY lucky get two sisters—and Bob got three of the best sisters ever born, right, Chris? Of course right.

    Pamela, I’ve already read your post about telling MC and I know she’s good with it, but if she starts with the brother thing again, be sure to tell her about her dad’s three sisters. We won’t mention the Trouble—with a capital T—with brothers. Ahem. The best thing about all-girl siblings may be the same thing that happens at all-girl schools: they grow up to be strong, resourceful, no-bones-about-it, unstoppable women. And they don’t take no guff. Course, they got the genes for that anyway. You’re gonna have some powerhouses on your hands, I’m thinking.

    BTW, as I recall the old days, it was the *boys* who hogged all the time in the bathroom. That’s why Bob needs his own.

  20. Sara G permalink
    September 29, 2010

    Congratulations,we are so happy for you all!

  21. Tarah permalink
    September 30, 2010

    What exciting news! My mom says she found me crying the night she told us she was pregnant with twin boys. I so badly wanted a little sister. I just knew it must be in God’s plan to give me a little sister. Five brothers and no sisters came. I’m so thankful for God’s sovereignty. I found myself crying, yet again, in the US room when we found out I was pregnant with twins. Full-blown crocodile tears, runny nose, “What, God?” the works. I remembered how hard it was when my twin brothers were little and knew my whole life that I didn’t care what God gave me- boy/girl, healthy/sick (just no twins, of course). How silly. Now, I watch Troy play with them, listen to Greg sing to them, laugh at Brookie’s voice that she talks to them in, watch them giggle and babble with eachother and I gaze into their eyes as they gaze into mine so adoringly… and I am filled with so much awe and joy and appreciation… it makes me cry just thinking about it. How grateful I am for God’s sovereignty! This is one decision I couldn’t have made with eternal wisdom and it’s one that I’m so thankful God doesn’t give us the chance to mess up! You tell MC that out of all the big sisters in the whole world He could’ve chosen, He picked one and only HER! He designed this little girl for her… and He designed her for this little girl. God has shown your family great favor to entrust this new daughter of His to you!

  22. Ellen permalink
    October 30, 2010

    Ah…………………………! Lucky all of you to have sisters!

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