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News Flash!

2010 October 29
by Pamela

So I had a realization today:  I’m going to have a baby.  Yes, I know I should have figured that out 6 months ago and technically I did.  But the slap-me-upside-the-head reality of it hit home this morning.

What brought on this epiphany?

Elizabeth woke up a hundred million gazillion times last night.  The cats, who I apparently forget to feed before bed, retaliated by walking all over me all night long, batted the window blinds repeatedly and maybe nipped my ear once.  That last part might have been part of a dream.  Each time I woke up I had trouble falling back to sleep.  Then Mary Claire, the Amazing Sleeping Daughter Since She Was 3.5 Months Old Wonder Child woke up at 4 a.m. and asked me if I had put her pink pants in the washer.  Because she had worn them to the Harvest Party and there were stickers and gift certificates for McDonalds in the pockets.  The world was going to end right this minute if I washed them.  Thankfully I hadn’t, but then she got ticked because Elizabeth was sleeping with me on the couch and why does Elizabeth always get to sleep with me and she never does?

When we woke up at 8 a.m., I felt like I was in a fog.  But 10 a.m., I felt like a mack truck hit me.  At 10:30 I was trying to make blueberry muffins and had to pull up a chair to the kitchen counter because I was too tired to simultaneously crack an egg and stand up.

And that’s when I realized:  I am going to have another baby.  And I’m going to feel like this every single day for many, many months.  Or if she is like Elizabeth, I might feel like this for years.  Ha, even if she isn’t like Elizabeth-the-child-who-never-sleeps, I still have Elizabeth to contend with. 

Thankfully Bob was off today and hung out with the girls so I could sleep.  Then he ran a couple of errands for me and helped me do some housework.  Tonight I feel completely normal, mostly because of Bob and his help.  Well him and that nap. 

For the last few weeks I’ve been thinking that having a baby isn’t going to be that hard.  Yes,  nursing takes up quite a bit of time, but other than that, things will be the same.  I will get all of my housework done.  I will take Mary Claire to all of her outings and still get dinner made.

The thing I forgot about is the fog that comes from extreme exhaustion and sleep deprivation/interruption.  I forgot how emptying the dishwasher turns into a monumental task when I am that tired. 

I hope I don’t sound like I’m complaining.  I’m observing is all.  I’m remembering what I somehow managed to forget even though I’ve been through it twice before. 

And this time I’m writing it down so I’ll remember to encourage myself and other moms with young children when we look like zombies.  It won’t be like this forever.   This stage of parenthood is hard and it doesn’t make me or you a worse or ungrateful parent to acknowledge the fact. 

We are going to be okay.  And someday we will sleep all night.  Almost every single night.  That’s the best dream this mama can hope for at the moment. 

“Come to me, all you who are weary and heavy-laden.  And I will give you rest”.

8 Responses leave one →
  1. October 29, 2010

    You are just too cute Pamela, too cute. And so are your little darlings and Bobby too. You’re one lucky lady!! I love your stories.

    • Pamela permalink*
      November 2, 2010

      Thanks Jane! We appreciate you.

  2. Shelly Metcalf permalink
    October 29, 2010

    Here let me help you feel like you will have no trouble handling it…..Try having TWINS!!! Matthew was 3, Ashlee, was 1, and I had 2, yes TWO newborns, that had 4 months of colic, and RSV too!! Talk about walking around like a zombie :) If it wasn’t for Marvin, I would be still be a zombie and hospitalized!!

    BUT…..would I trade it….NOPE!!!

    Little kids are for a season….they grow up, they sleep through the night, eventually, and they become slaves….eh, I mean helpers with the housework!

    You can handle it, Pamela, in this, I have no doubt!! You are amazing!! And I love you bunches!!!

  3. Kelly H. permalink
    October 29, 2010

    The need to sit down while cracking an egg made me laugh. I remember when Ben was sick, Aaron came home one day and I had pulled a stool up to the stove so that I could stir dinner. I just couldn’t bear the thought of walking back and forth from the living room every 10 minutes. I thought I would never sleep again!

  4. Kimberly Genaw permalink
    October 29, 2010

    Blessings on you and your growing family. God will provide, but dont forget to ask for help! You have a great sense of humor – that will keep you going!

  5. jenny permalink
    October 29, 2010

    As the mother of a 13 year old and a 21 year old I can say yes, you will sleep again and it will be wonderful. You will make it, I promise. What is even more awesome is when they get up, get their own breakfast and throw a load of clothes in the washer before you get up. :)

    • Pamela permalink*
      November 2, 2010

      I can’t tell you how much hope your comment brings me. Sleeping in AND doing laundry?!

  6. October 29, 2010

    “It won’t be like this forever.” So true. When A was a newborn, I felt like the 45-minute nursing sessions every two hours would be what my life would be like forever. It is hard, but it does get better…slowly. I’ll pray that your #3 is a great sleeper like MC. You are going to do so great as a mama of three!

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